My original quote was…
You say not all men are monsters?
Imagine a bowl of M&Ms. 10% of them are poisoned.
Go ahead. Eat a handful.
Not all M&Ms are poison.
This was merely an explanation of why women and female presenting folks are cautious of men. Especially after recent events.
But you want to take an analogy about an oppressive group and try substituting marginalized groups in their stead? I don’t see how that is the same.
I feel like you think you have a super clever “gotcha” point there, but honestly you are just being racist and using false equivalencies.
Try replacing men with other oppressive groups and suddenly the analogy works again.
Not all CEOs are corrupt?
Not all police use brutal force?
Not all of the conservative leadership are racist, sexist bags of crap?
Not all of the congressional committees for reproductive rights are chaired by a bunch of old white dudes?
Imagine a bowl of M&Ms. 98% of them are poison.
Throw them up in the air and move to the moon.
The analogy seems to still work when other oppressive groups are substituted. The way it was intended to be understood.
Men are saying that women have no reason to fear them and are bad people if they do. Yet every woman has experienced harassment. Catcalled in the street. Many have been groped. Many face constant sexism in the workplace. And have you seen what happens when a woman opens an OKCupid account? Worst of all, 1 in 6 have been sexually assaulted. That is an astounding statistic.
Talk to pretty much any woman and you will find that they have not just one story of men scaring the bejesus out of them… they have many. This is not an insignificant problem where they can throw caution to the wind and start trusting all the menfolk.
And when these shootings happened and it was revealed that a huge component of this person’s anger was that women rejected him, the prospect of merely rejecting the advances of men has become an even more frightening matter than it already was.
Fear is not something easily controlled and you want to tell women to turn it off like a light switch?
We are not properly educating our youth about consent. We are not properly teaching men that they have no entitlement to a woman’s body. We still have common phrases like, “Wearing her down” and “playing hard to get.” That Blurred Lines song was an anthem for dudebros across the nation.
Until we take major steps to destroy this attitude of entitlement, teach people that rejection is a normal part of life that should not be seen as some grave insult or a challenge to be conquered—woman and female presenting folks are going to have a cautious fear of men.
If you want to stop being seen as a danger, the onus is on us as men. We need to start teaching each other how to stop seeing women as prizes to be won. We need to eliminate this culture of entitlement.
the notes guys,LOOK AT THE NOTES!!!
Are fedoras really that bad?
YES YES THEY ARE
I don’t really believe this mumbo jumbo
I mean it’s a goddamn hat.
The white rose, it symbolizes the unique beauty of all the women who wish not to be with a nice guy such as myse-
I wonder if this works with other kinds of hat…
Nothing ventured, nothing gained…
WHEEEN THE MOON HITS YOUR EYE LIKE A BIG PIZZA PIE THAT’S AMORREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
oh, you say not all muslims are terrorists? imagine a bowl of m&m's.... oh, you say not all black people are criminals? imagine a bowl of m&m's.... oh, you say not all women cut their husbands' penises off and murder them while they sleep? imagine a bowl of m&m's.... oh, you say not all jewish people are greedy? imagine a bowl of m&m's....
- me at age 12: ew older men
- now: wow he's only 30?
We really need to talk about this scene a lot, because holy wow. The MCU movies have definitely been getting a little darker since the Avengers, but scenes like this? This is pure optimism. Tony is told he can save 4 out of 13, and then he saves all 13 of them anyway, because these people can work together and help Tony save them.
If a similar scenario had happened in the Dark Knight Saga or Man of Steel, you know damn well 9 out of those 13 people would have been dead. Hell, Bruce or Clark would have been lucky to even save the 4, because DC movies have gone down a route of unrelenting grtty realism that makes good old super heroics virtually impossible. Bruce can’t save the city without faking his own death; Clark can’t save the world without becoming a murderer.
But even in the darkest hours of the Marvel Universe, Tony Stark can damn well save 13 people plummeting to their certain death. Is it realistic? Hell no. But it was an awesome victory that both Tony and the audience needed at this point in the story, and by god it was heroic.
kittenskysong’s tags: #and he didn’t have to decide between them and pepper#he was able to rescue them w/ the suit while he saved pepper#you know how many movies would have had him sacrifice pepper for them?#or the other way around#and the only way he is able to save all of them#is because they work together to save each other#i don’t care if it’s realistic#this is a movie about a man that flies around inside a robot#in a universe where Thor exists#i don’t want your realism if its all just grimdarkness#you know what is realistic about marvel?#tony’s anxiety & ptsd#steve’s ptsd and loneliness#bruce’s guilt and anger#thor’s fall from grace and strained relationship w/ loki#Clint’s loss of control#and natasha’s fear and her search for self#we can relate to these things#and yet they are still heroes#they struggle like real people#but they never succumb and they fight on and they win#and the right choice isn’t to do the dark things#but to root them out and pull them into the light#to make the good choice even when it’s the hardest#i don’t know i just got into a huge ramble#but give me marvel superheroes any day
Reblogging for those tags. Because yes. Heroic is doing the right thing because it’s the right thing, even when it’s impossibly hard.
it’s fun to stay at the
much of the ocean is still unexplored